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Are you consistently inconsistent?

13/12/2018

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​This week I attended our local church for what was billed as a ‘non-religious gathering’ of the community to celebrate Christmas with mulled wine and mince pies. The venue was chosen for its ability to house the large numbers and to help raise money to maintain the fabric of the historic Norman building. Yet despite the non-religious focus and no religious person hosting, we proceeded to sing carols that invariably included references to God and religion. It struck me how incongruent this was, but our traditions and habits make such inconsistency invisible and accepted.
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This inconsistency is seen in leadership and the business context too. I might be coaching a manager who want the team to grow and take more responsibility but continues to exert control and makes unilateral decisions as they have always done. Many will say they have no time but still fail to hold boundaries and say no to tasks. I have seen leaders who promote honesty and integrity as corporate values, yet will withhold sensitive information from staff or customers when they feel this might have negative consequences. I see organisations who explain that ‘we are all in it together’ but this does not seem to extend to the bonus pot!
Most of us are unaware of our own inconsistencies and need another person to help highlight these blind spots. A useful coaching type challenge is simply to highlight these inconsistencies from a curious mindset. By pointing out the potential tensions, it raises the issue into conscious thought for analysis and evaluation. The person may still decide to do what they have always done but can at least assess how those inconsistencies might be seen by others and what impact they may be having.
 
What inconsistent messages might you be sending?
Who can help you become more aware of your potential inconsistencies?
How can you help others to learn from their inconsistent choices, actions and behaviours?

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